Monday, June 7, 2010

"Have you lost you?"

It is so hard to walk the line between self respect and light kindness. You can give so much,, thinking you are selfless and find out you have totally lost "yourself". All of a sudden you are asking yourself, "Who am I?".
We have a right to be connected to what is inside ourselves, and to not let another take the core of you in any way. Many people are abused and yet they have gone through it so much, it seems totally natural to give way beyond what is healthy.It may even take another person to say something before they understand, it could be abuse!!
Many people I know, have lost their self in another person, and don't even realize it. Have you?? A healthy relationship,not lopsided, is very rare indeed. Most couples have a giver and a taker..Which are you?? Unfortunately the giver does not realize how much of him or herself they have given over the years and all at once there is a feeling of being used when they wake up.
If we can analyze the situation and remedy it before we feel used and realize we have let the other person abuse us, we may be able to overcome the issue and become healthy again.
Each person has to give in a relationship, I just ask you to make sure yours is healthy and that you have your core in tact. You do not want to wake up one day and say "Who am I and what am I doing here?" It is a long road back!!